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Showing posts with label Emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emotions. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Love is a principle, Not an emotion

A word from Shai & Irra:

L.O.V.E a four letter word so many people seem to misuse, and the only way a word can be misused is if a person doesn't know the meaning or misunderstood the meaning of that word. In today’s world the word LOVE is used too loosely, and constantly mistaken for lust and infatuation. So many people are falling in and out of “love” so easily and quickly that it’s becoming disgusting and out right sad. So Irra and I are here to give our opinion on what we feel True Love is instead of this false imitation people are quick to claim they have. I know this is going to go over many people’s heads but try to understand what is being said and broken down.


..:::Irra:::..

Love is a pretty tricky subject and it took me some time to really gather the desired response. You see, when I was younger I did't fully understand Love but as I got a bit older and somewhat wiser I had an inkling that love wasn't what the world made it out to be. The first time I read 1st Corinthians 13:1-13 I didn't recognize or understand these attributes as principles but I knew that was what love should look like. Reading God's definition of love helped me discern the faults in our carnal understanding of what love is or should be. Unlike what is advertised in the media, Love is not pain, it doesn't hurt (atleast it's not supposed to), it's not the tingly FEELING you get when you 1st set eyes on someone, Love is definitely not the closest thing to hate, in fact, they have no relation both are governed by two vastly different sets of principles, etc. All these worldly misconceptions are based solely on superficial, human emotions but it's deeper than that, muuuuuuch deeper.  Love is everything we are not which is why our expression of it is so imperfect and conditional. I would elaborate further but I feel Shai has hit the nail on the head, so I will pass the Mic to her but I will leave with this, one of my favorite quotes by Antoine De Saint-Exupery, "there is but one love but there are a thousand imitations". And God is that one love, we wouldn't know what Love looked like if weren't for him, we Love because he first loved us and he demonstrates this through Jesus who is to be our example.


:..::Shai::..:


LOVE is a principle not a feeling, words that were told to me by my parents years ago. Following that statement I read the words of Ellen G. White who said “True love is not merely a sentiment or an emotion. It is a living principle, a principle that is manifest in action. True love, wherever it exists, will control the life. Thus it is with the love of God. "God is love;" and in all His works, in all His dealings with mankind, His character is revealed.”Now let’s break down these words: Sentiment, Emotion, Living, Principle and Action.

Sentiment has 5 definitions:
1. an attitude toward something; regard; opinion.
2. a mental feeling; emotion: a sentimental (Notice opinion and mental, and emotion)

Emotion:
an effective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.
2. Any of the feelings of joy, sorrow, fear, hate, love, etc.
3. Any strong agitation of the feelings actuated by experiencing love, hate, fear, etc., and usually accompanied by certain physiological changes. (Notice Physiological changes & the word hate)

Living:
1.having life; being alive; not dead: living persons.
2. In actual existence or use; extant: living languages.
3. Active or thriving; vigorous; strong: a living faith.
4. Burning or glowing, as a coal. 5) Flowing freely, as water. ( Notice Active)

Principle:
1.an accepted or professed rule of action or conduct: a person of good moral principles.
2. A fundamental, primary, or general law or truth from which others are derived: the principles of modern physics. ( Notice Truth)

Action:
1.the process or state of acting or of being active,
2. Something done or performed; act; deed. Actions, habitual or usual acts; conduct:

The word opinion is used in the definition of sentiment and opinion is defined as a belief or judgment that falls short of absolute conviction. Also they used the word mental which is defined as of or pertaining to the mind, mental has 5 definitions and the third one really stood out which is providing care for persons with disordered minds, emotions, etc.: a mental hospital. So if sentiment is all these things including an opinion, and a mental feeling which is a feeling in the mind how can that be love? It isn't.

Emotions have been described as sorrow, joy, fear, hate, and love. Now if love was an emotion that means God who is love experiences these emotions toward us. In the bible it clearly states that God is a loving, merciful, caring and forgiving God, so how can love be an emotion that has anything to do with sorrow, fear, and hate, a.k.a Physiological changes. God doesn't love us today and hate us tomorrow; God’s love is unconditional no matter what we do. Love isn't an emotion.

Living is described as active, alive never dead. Which means it’s never dead.

As you read above the definition of principle utilizes the words, fundamental, primary, law and truth: In the Bible it reads God is the way, the truth and the light.God is love and through God’s love we see the truth of what true love consists of. 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 and the principle of God’s love is that he loves us unconditionally meaning no matter what we have done God doesn't stop loving us. God’s love for us never dies nor changes.


Friday, November 13, 2009

Can you be in love with two people at once? If so can it really be identified as GINUINE love?

..:::Irra:::..

Honestly I don't believe it's possible to be in love with two people at once. Everyone has their own definition and perspective of love but their is only one true definition hence the quote "there is but one love but a thousand imitations". I feel that if you really and truly love someone you only have eyes for them and you want to be with them exclusively, having this feeling for more than one person can just be defined as wanting to have your cake and eat it too. The problem with most people is that they think any alien feeling they have can be defined as love while overlooking lust and infatuation or they are in love with the idea of being in love. If some would just sit and re-evaluate the true meaning of love then we probably wouldn't have situations like these. It's more to it than what's on the surface but people don't take the time to delve underneath and really understand what it truly means to love and be in love.


:..:Shai::..:

In my opinion a person can not be in love with two people at the same time. One comes in the form of love, which is always mistaken for love and later identified as lust. A person can be in love with the qualities that a person posses but that doesn't mean your in love with that person.
If you have two people your in love with and you pick one over the other that shows you were never really in love with that person. People need to look at the true meaning of love, and not just base it off of emotions. All in all I feel like one person your in love with and the other you lust. Now all you have to do is found out which one is the lust.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Guys Kill Me How They Want to Vow to Mistreat Women Over One Heartbreak

:..::Shai::..:

I was having a conversation with three male friends of mine. I grew quiet and began to really listen to each guy talk about how they vowed to mistreat women. Hearing them talk I became annoyed and interrupted the conversation deciding to educate them.

Guys kill me how they want to vow to miss treat women over one heartbreak. If I ask the question, How long ago were you in love? 9x out of 10 the guy would answer when I was 16, in high school or that freshmen year in college. From that one little puppy love they want to punish every woman.

If i ask a female the same question 9x out of ten she would answer 2 or more.

Ask a man how many times has their girlfriend hurt them 9x out of ten they wouldn't be able to recall but if you ask a woman their answer would be several. It's a part of life and yes it hurts but get over it, you learn from it and move on.

..:::Irra:::..

Its pretty much unfair to the women that come after that relationship because she had nothing to do with it yet she's still dealing with the baggage and aftermath of something in the past. It is impossible for people to move on if their present is still wrapped up in the past. Also, you should never let a person or incident change who you are.


:::The past: Our cradle, not our prison; There is danger as well as appeal in it's glamour. The past is for inspiration, not imitation, for continuation, not repition:::


Shai and Irra




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